The Bride's Heart

Being asked to be the maid of honor in a wedding is an sign of trust. The bride knows that you will come through for her in various ways, both as the big day approaches and on her wedding day itself.

You and the bride both want this day to be memorable, in a good way of course, and you are there to make it happen. Most of these duties  you would probably do anyway, just because you are the bride’s friend. Yet, she has chosen to single you out and honor you with this job so you need to take it seriously.

Before the wedding, the maid of honor duties will include helping with decisions, planning the bridal shower and bachelorette party and attending the rehearsal dinner. Be on hand to help the bride choose invitations and the location for the wedding in addition to the decorations for the dinner and the wedding.

Help her choose her wedding dress as well the bridesmaid dresses. Be available to run interference with the other bridesmaids if necessary. Attend the bridesmaids’ fittings so the bride does not have to.

Help her address invitations. Work out a seating arrangement for the reception. All of this takes pressure off of the bride and she will appreciate your hard work.

Helping the bride get dressed

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When the big day arrives, your duties will increase but don’t worry. The job is not hard if you are prepared. Make sure the bride has everything she needs before heading to the church. Don’t forget the little things, like bobby pins and extra nylons.

Once you have arrived at the church, help her straighten her dress and touch up her makeup, if need be. As the bride may be nervous, just being there will help to calm her nerves so make sure you stay close by.

Communicate messages between the bride and her family so she does not have to run around, but can sit and relax. Make sure she receives quiet time if she desires it.

During the wedding, help her with her train and veil. Don’t let a fall spoil her day, arrange her veil so she won’t step on it. This is very important and, too often, it gets overlooked. Hold the bouquet as well as the groom’s ring until it is needed. Just be there for her as your presence will calm her down.

Your maid of honor duties will continue at the reception. Make a toast or speech when requested. Mingle with guests who look like they are uncomfortable. Everyone wants to speak to the bride and groom and someone may be overlooked during this process.

Don’t let that happen if at all possible. Once the reception is over, and everyone has left, relax and take a break. Your job is done, but definitely not forgotten.